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Are the People you Mix with Holding you Back?

almost 2 years ago


Whether you realise it or not, the people who you choose to spend your time with have a direct influence on what you achieve, or rather fail to achieve in life.

One of the key factors behind success is mindset, and your mindset is deeply impacted by those around you. There is a though provoking quote from famous entrepreneur and author Jim Rohn which reads: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.

It may sounds quite obvious, but many people fail to fully understand the true impact that their social choices have on their ultimate success.

The subconscious is a very powerful thing. If you spend all of your time around negative people who tell you that you’re not capable of success, sooner or later you will start to believe it. At the very least you’ll be fighting an uphill battle to keep yourself motivated.

The other danger here is that people who have a negative outlook on life are often the ones who haven’t achieved much themselves. We are social creatures who long to fit in with our peers. Mixing with people who have low aspirations will often lead to you setting your own standards lower in order to fit in with the crowd.

Now think about the flip side:

If you spend most of your time around people who encourage you and challenge you to achieve big things, then you are going to feel more motivated to try to do so.

Better still, if you are mixing with successful people who have already achieved what you’re striving to achieve, then your subconscious desire to fit in will push you to try and match their achievements.

You will naturally set your standards much higher when success is seen as the norm among your peers.

Now I’m not saying that you should just go and ditch all of your friends and only mix with successful people, but expanding your circles to include people who you strive to emulate is definitely something that you should be actively trying to do. Doing so will only serve to have a positive impact on your life.